I wrote an opinion piece about sexual assault, what that does to women and the social issues lying underneath. In my other language and for a major newspaper in that country. It got published yesterday and I know it’s getting a lot of traction on the Internet. I’m happy that it is, but honestly IContinue reading “Fine line between consent and non-consent”
Tag Archives: negotiation
Emotion
There are things I can control.There are things I cannot control. I can control my fucking own emotions.I cannot control someone else’s emotions. After we started exchanging messages, I noticed that he was starting to be attracted to me. I’m not saying this to boast about how good I am. Just a mere fact. TwoContinue reading “Emotion”
Using and not caring
I liked to be ‘used’. Whatever the dom wants to do to me. Whatever excites him. I want to be on the receiving end. Being used. That’s my fantasy. On one hand, I might say that I want the dom to not care about me. Whatever he wants to do. But that is not true.Continue reading “Using and not caring”
Unsent letter (con’d)
I think I act patiently when I should have not. In my real life and in my BDSM life. I know at work, I let people take advantage of me too often. I’m dominant at work, but that doesn’t stop more manipulative people to take advantage of me. However, I’ve always had a view thatContinue reading “Unsent letter (con’d)”
Relationship anarchy? really?
What do you want? don’t fall for a fancy label about your relationship, like ‘relationship anarchy’…is that really defining what your relationship is, or is it the other person being an a-hole?
My desires and BDSM
I am a sub in BDSM because I want to be wanted by the other person as much as they may lose control, and at the same time i want to please him.
a Möbius strip of power exchange
For a Dom and sub to be compatible in BDSM, there needs to be a power exchange. We fuel and feed off each other which is almost non-stop. Not sure where it starts and where it ends.
Hurt me…and abuse me?
I want someone whom I trust and long for to hurt me, physically and emotionally, to the blink of hard limits. That can’t be done by anyone.
Being honest is tough
I hold my emotions. I fear being truthful about my emotions. But BDSM allows me to be true me.
Permission to be a slut
I don’t allow anyone to call me a slut. But I want to be a slut for the person I choose. Be a slut that I can freely release my bdsm and sexual desires.