Honouring the trust

It’s a warm Christmas day in Australia. I was planning to work as I didn’t have any plans as usual, but a commotion with an unexpected guest has upset my plan. I wish it was something sexy, but no. My first foster care adult cat arrived yesterday and we had enough drama in less thanContinue reading “Honouring the trust”

Yin, Yang and being complementary

Well. I think I figured out why I was so irritated last week. All good. I’ve heard many describe BDSM relationships in terms of Yin and Yang. Not necessarily opposite but complementary and interconnected, which is the meaning of Yin and Yang in the original Chinese context. The Dom will also have Yin inside them.Continue reading “Yin, Yang and being complementary”

Too much or not enough?

I wrote something 3 months ago which was similar to this post, but decided to take it down for some reason. I think I was very unsure of what was happening and where it was going at the time. Now I wanted to write something similar, but feeling very different. Australia went into strict longContinue reading “Too much or not enough?”

Alpha female and searching for a dom

Many discussions are going on in the Fet and other blogs about why alpha females want to submit. You can find a lot of different views.I am an alpha female, if you want to classify it that way, in my professional life: Independent, a people leader, strong and excited at solving complex issues. My non-professionalContinue reading “Alpha female and searching for a dom”

Pain slut….or am I?

I write a lot. There are other blogs that I write in my native language. I write all day, providing advice to others. I write reports, procedures and policies all day long. However, there are topics I can’t express what I have in my mind. Am I into pain? I can’t answer this question. IContinue reading “Pain slut….or am I?”

The name that I call him

What do you call yourself? What do you want to be called? Do you even care? There are many ways to identify your BDSM relationship; call & identify yourself or your partner. Master/slave; Dom/sub; Top/bottom; or any combination from these words, such as a couple may identify as a Master/sub. Me personally, I don’t care.Continue reading “The name that I call him”

Trust..and lies

Trust and BDSM. Another buzz word for domination and submission. Trust that your/sub’s limit won’t be breached. Trust that the sub will speak up when there is something wrong. So that the sub won’t be hurt and dom won’t unintentionally hurt the sub. Before we go into trust in BDSM (could be another topic givenContinue reading “Trust..and lies”