I have asked for the help of hypnosis a number of times in my life.
A counsellor used it. There is my favourite hypnotist on iphone apps (it worked till he changed the background music!!! It now just doesn’t work for me!).
To some extent, I can self hypnotise myself (I think…and everyone can, can’t you?). Of course, When you are self hypnotising, no induction etc, you jump right into it. My ex boss said that her father was a doctor who uses hypnosis and the father taught her to self hypnotise so she said she was pain free when she gave birth to her kids…
Then, a partner used hypnosis for sexual context. He could’ve charged for it, he was really good. Helped to ‘some extent’ for me to enjoy sex. I think for the first time, I released myself (a bit….I’m so stubborn, I can control how much the hypnosis can work). We used hypnosis to put ourselves in unusual sex scenes. …OK a word of caution, if you want to come up with a scene, make sure you know them well. If you describe a scene and I’m thinking …’no….XYZ wasn’t there at that time in that country’, it may not work as intended. LOL
We see many forums and posts about hypnosis on Fetlife forums and posts. There seem to be a lot of people who want to know about it, and who want to use them. But how?
I put an ad on the fet on erotic hypnosis groups seeking a hypnotist in the BDSM context. When I wrote it, I wasn’t quite sure what I wanted. Many wrote to say that they can do online hypnosis, online texts and people from other countries replied too.
As you know from my previous posts, then I found S.
He is knowledgeable about hypnosis. He can use hypnosis in the traditional sense. With induction, etc. But he is not as good as the previous partner. And that’s fine as that wasn’t his strength.
I can choose to believe to be hypnotised. I can choose not to.
He didn’t ‘hypnotise’ me until he gained my trust. When he decided to hypnotise me and when I decided to choose to be hypnotised, he hypnotised me and I chose to follow him. The hypnosis is still working. I’m sometimes too suggestive. I always have an issue getting out of the hypnosis.
So back to hypnosis and BDSM.
Where S was good with, was his imagination, his vocabulary and his story telling skills. Also an ability to read and work spontaneously with me if the story telling involves a response from me. I might be cheeky and being wholly aware of what responses he may have been waiting from me, I might decide to change it. Then he needs to think on the spot. He may have to improvise. I am a very difficult person, so if there is any contradiction in the story, I might go….’uh…..that may not work….’
So where am I heading? Hypnosis is not only about induction and making someone do whatever you want the person to do like you see on the TVs and online.
Telling a convincing story and making me immerse into the scene is hypnosis as well. I think. And it’s not as easy as the ‘hypnosis’ you all think of.
It’s a kind of roleplay. Even though every time, I was playing BDSM, I was role playing, I never thought of such. Till I played with S online. Mainly texts. We only played once via voice. Of course, it may have helped that we were only playing via texts. Then he could, and I could use our imaginations. What we were imagining might have been different, but it worked. Maybe it will be a little different if we were to be in a room face to face. Then, I will have to imagine that I am wearing a certain costume. Imagine that he is too. Will it be more difficult than plain text role playing? I don’t know. Maybe. Maybe not.
What makes in person play hot, is his voice. His heat. His emotion triggers a chain reaction in my body. Then that triggers his excitement. That….we can’t do simply by texts or voices.
Even a simple CNC scene, that we discussed a lot before actually playing, is hypnosis. How much S could take me into the scene, and make me immerse into the scene, how he could make me really aroused and make me want him….as if he was in front of me….is ‘hypnosis’.
There are people who can role-play, of course. As I said, when people are playing BDSM, people are role-playing their roles in the scenes.
But the difference is the degree. Dragging me into the scene in a matter of minutes and controlling how my body reacts is hypnosis.
With his own ‘hypnosis’ skills, he was able to almost make me feel as if he was holding me down. As if he has tied me. As if I could hear his voice. Warm. Teasing. His pleasure. Pulled my fair. Strong. Feeling his penetration. The pleasure spread through my body. Climaxing. As if I could feel him being please when he said he was ‘pleased’. CNC without fears. Getting excited instead of scared.
If we were to actually use ropes, I may feel that the rope is too tight or my shoulders hurt. Of course, that’s still a part of BDSM, but this story telling hypnosis made me feel what I want to feel from the scene. If I want to choose to feel the tight rope, I can. If I want to feel him touching me, I could.
It may not be traditional hypnosis, but this hypnosis through his imagination….that’s the BDSM I want. Someone who could take me into his world of imagination that I want to be taken into. Don’t forget. That is what I want and that is why it works. I agreed and I wanted to be taken to his world and immerse myself in it.
If we were to do this face to face in a BDSM session, I am sure his voice, the voice I love, would guide me into that world.
When I say I want someone to use hypnosis with BDSM, that’s what I want.
It’s not easy to find someone who could do this.
Needless to say, he could take me into his world, because he had obtained my trust. I decided to trust him and be guided into his imaginary world.
It’s not easy as you think….