Before I get into my usual serious note…. The prospective Dom has told me that he likes to use his fingers and mouth and he is into using toys. I went… I see….(that sounds ok) Fast forward 7 months. (yes 7 months!) The Dom sends me a link to a video of a girl withContinue reading “I hate negotiation”
Monthly Archives: February 2022
Intensity
Heightened intensity, whether it is from strong pain and impact, or heightened by his light touch, his words, is what I want. To get intensity that I won’t get from everyday life or from vanilla sex.
My desires and BDSM
I am a sub in BDSM because I want to be wanted by the other person as much as they may lose control, and at the same time i want to please him.
a Möbius strip of power exchange
For a Dom and sub to be compatible in BDSM, there needs to be a power exchange. We fuel and feed off each other which is almost non-stop. Not sure where it starts and where it ends.
Uncontrollable desire
What should I do with my uncontrollable libido and sexual desire? This didn’t use to be an issue before….but it’s a big issue now.
Hurt me…and abuse me?
I want someone whom I trust and long for to hurt me, physically and emotionally, to the blink of hard limits. That can’t be done by anyone.
This is me…and it’s ok
I managed to lose weight, but also some kilos creeped back. I wasn’t happy with it, but starting to accept this is who I am. It really helps that I have someone who I think , likes me for me as the whole package.
LDR and existence
How do you convince yourself when you are in a LDR and that you still exist in the other person?
Fantasy – Head or tail
“Do you have a coin?” Right after we are back in the hotel room, I saw you take out your wallet from your jacket and look for something. That’s weird, I think opening a bottle of water. Why do you need your wallet and what are you looking for? “Coin?” I ask. What coin? Why?Continue reading “Fantasy – Head or tail”
BDSM researches are….
I just started reading some articles about BDSM that Google spat out….I love reading these psychology articles about BDSM.