How do you choose and vet the Dominant when I want to engage in BDSM? It’s not easy, is it?
Monthly Archives: December 2021
Bound
When I think about what I like in BDSM, bondage comes into mind…Ropes, leather, scarf, belt, towel. Anything.
Your first dom and ideal dom
Who is a submissive’s first dominant? It’s not the person you’ve met first and experienced a BDSM scene. I think it’s the ideal dominant who you create in your mind. Unless you did not have any idea of BDSM and has been introduced by your partner to the BDSM, I’m sure you have your idealContinue reading “Your first dom and ideal dom”
Honouring the trust
It’s a warm Christmas day in Australia. I was planning to work as I didn’t have any plans as usual, but a commotion with an unexpected guest has upset my plan. I wish it was something sexy, but no. My first foster care adult cat arrived yesterday and we had enough drama in less thanContinue reading “Honouring the trust”
To sext or not?
Well…Where I live in Australia will be mandating masks again. I hope we do not have to go back to another lockdown (be it current strand or next mutation of the COVID). Whilst I agree with cautious measure as I have health issues, but I don’t think I can cope it if there is anotherContinue reading “To sext or not?”
Yin, Yang and being complementary
Well. I think I figured out why I was so irritated last week. All good. I’ve heard many describe BDSM relationships in terms of Yin and Yang. Not necessarily opposite but complementary and interconnected, which is the meaning of Yin and Yang in the original Chinese context. The Dom will also have Yin inside them.Continue reading “Yin, Yang and being complementary”
Fetish or fantasy?
Oh my. I’ve been very irritated with everyone and everything this week and I’ve been annoyed that I was doing this to others. I hate when I notice that I am doing this. I had to be very careful with what I say, write and do or else I would have destroyed everything I didn’tContinue reading “Fetish or fantasy?”
My submission
Rough sex to start out with? He said.Yes. Break me. I said. Belt and whip? I said.Cane? He said. I may lose control. He said.I want to see you lose control. I said. These sound like typical BDSM conversations. However, these conversations didn’t take place instantly. I didn’t think I would be back and findContinue reading “My submission”
Too much or not enough?
I wrote something 3 months ago which was similar to this post, but decided to take it down for some reason. I think I was very unsure of what was happening and where it was going at the time. Now I wanted to write something similar, but feeling very different. Australia went into strict longContinue reading “Too much or not enough?”
Did you read my profile?
Maybe a lighter topic? I’m deactivating my Fet account and reactivate it when I want to check the groups. Last weekend, the reactivation page was down and I was sort of in panic as I could’ve lost message exchanges that I did not want to lose. Recreating a profile is easy but I really didn’tContinue reading “Did you read my profile?”