Your first dom and ideal dom

Who is a submissive’s first dominant? It’s not the person you’ve met first and experienced a BDSM scene. I think it’s the ideal dominant who you create in your mind. Unless you did not have any idea of BDSM and has been introduced by your partner to the BDSM, I’m sure you have your idealContinue reading “Your first dom and ideal dom”

Honouring the trust

It’s a warm Christmas day in Australia. I was planning to work as I didn’t have any plans as usual, but a commotion with an unexpected guest has upset my plan. I wish it was something sexy, but no. My first foster care adult cat arrived yesterday and we had enough drama in less thanContinue reading “Honouring the trust”

Yin, Yang and being complementary

Well. I think I figured out why I was so irritated last week. All good. I’ve heard many describe BDSM relationships in terms of Yin and Yang. Not necessarily opposite but complementary and interconnected, which is the meaning of Yin and Yang in the original Chinese context. The Dom will also have Yin inside them.Continue reading “Yin, Yang and being complementary”

My submission

Rough sex to start out with? He said.Yes. Break me. I said. Belt and whip? I said.Cane? He said. I may lose control. He said.I want to see you lose control. I said. These sound like typical BDSM conversations. However, these conversations didn’t take place instantly. I didn’t think I would be back and findContinue reading “My submission”

Too much or not enough?

I wrote something 3 months ago which was similar to this post, but decided to take it down for some reason. I think I was very unsure of what was happening and where it was going at the time. Now I wanted to write something similar, but feeling very different. Australia went into strict longContinue reading “Too much or not enough?”

Did you read my profile?

Maybe a lighter topic? I’m deactivating my Fet account and reactivate it when I want to check the groups. Last weekend, the reactivation page was down and I was sort of in panic as I could’ve lost message exchanges that I did not want to lose. Recreating a profile is easy but I really didn’tContinue reading “Did you read my profile?”