Trust..and lies

Trust and BDSM. Another buzz word for domination and submission. Trust that your/sub’s limit won’t be breached. Trust that the sub will speak up when there is something wrong. So that the sub won’t be hurt and dom won’t unintentionally hurt the sub. Before we go into trust in BDSM (could be another topic givenContinue reading “Trust..and lies”

Is there a ‘checklist’?

You can easily find multiple versions of BDSM checklist online. What you want to do, may consider doing and what you don’t want to do. Soft limits, hard limits. However, chatting to a friend, I noticed that she was so hyped up about what they would do in a play session. I started asking someContinue reading “Is there a ‘checklist’?”

BDSM in non-mother tongue?

Even having lived in English speaking countries for more than half of my life (including some years as a kid), I used to think I had issues communicating my internal feelings to my partners in English. I envied whenever a lady from the same country is (vanilla) partnered with an English speaking guy and thatContinue reading “BDSM in non-mother tongue?”