Consent….another buzz word for BDSM?
Let’s look at this word from a different perspective.
I guess it’s really the same with any relationships.
It’s unwritten.
It’s implicit.
…Consent to entering into the relationship with that person and continues to see that person until it comes to end.
It is probably still implicit in BDSM.
I consent to act as a submissive when I am with this person.
I consent to him using me in whatever way it pleases him.
‘With him’ – whenever he gives me some of his time to me, and whenever I give him a slice of my time.
Not anyone else but him.
He consents to act as a dominant when he is with me.
He consents to lead me, control me and care for me.
I get really excited that this specific person has consented to act as a dominant when he is with me.
I get excited at myself consenting to act as a submissive.
Consent to show the other side that you have not shown to others.
Previous doms? Previous subs?
No, it’s never the same ‘me’ that I consented to show…as I am a different sub with every doms.
I feel like the re-evaluation of this consent continuously occurs in BDSM, compared to a vanilla relationship.
So I plot the ways to keep him interested so that our consent is not withdrawn by either of us.