Stepping into the room, I freeze. I try to smile. I’m sure I failed. Something I can easily do in my day to day life. Wear a mask with a smile so that I can hide my emotion. …I should be able to do it. But no. Why? Always fails with him. He’s stripped myContinue reading “Game 1”
Monthly Archives: September 2021
Consent…and continued consent
Consent….another buzz word for BDSM? Let’s look at this word from a different perspective. I guess it’s really the same with any relationships. It’s unwritten. It’s implicit. …Consent to entering into the relationship with that person and continues to see that person until it comes to end. It is probably still implicit in BDSM. IContinue reading “Consent…and continued consent”
mind fuck….
So…mind fuck? Anyone? I used to be a pain slut. Taking anything that the doms inflicted. I think I’ve experienced almost every major BDSM acts once. Whilst I am still interested in certain impact plays, pains and pleasure, I’m now interested in mind fucks, and a person who will be able to do it. ButContinue reading “mind fuck….”
Safe place to discuss
My work colleague, who is older than me, has extensive experience and probably more intelligent than me said to me that I was a rare person who was not afraid to challenge him, put a 🪢 (who knew there is a rope emoji?) around him and pull back, and put him in place if required.Continue reading “Safe place to discuss”
What a BDSM contract? null and void?
I just came across a so called ‘slave contract’. lol For BDSM. Yep. It did appear on the Fifty Shades of Grey. Wow. When I started to type “Fifty Shades of Grey contract” into google, it does suggest words like “text” “pdf” “word doc”. Really? Oh nooo. So people want to copy that contract thatContinue reading “What a BDSM contract? null and void?”
Turn ons, limits and finding a dom
Do I know what turns me on when it comes to kink or BDSM? Yes and No. How can I communicate them to a prospective dom? There are hard limits. Anything that leaves a mark where others can see (permanent or not). Anything that will leave me not being able to do my day toContinue reading “Turn ons, limits and finding a dom”
BDSM – intensity
Why do I prefer BDSM compared to vanilla sex? I don’t have an answer to it, even after close to 25 years of experience (on and off). Insecurity used to be the word that came to my mind. I have very different personalities when at work and off work. Of course, off-work ‘me’ is theContinue reading “BDSM – intensity”
Introduction
I‘ve decided to move some of my notes from Fetlife as this will be more anonymous. So, here is a brief intro about myself. I’m in late 40s, a submissive living in Australia. Currently I do not have a dominant, but I am not looking for one either. So…what’s been my journey? I started myContinue reading “Introduction”